In addition to officiating at weddings, I am an educator, a writer and an artist. I host two radio programs on the NPR affiliate in Santa Cruz, California. I began officiating at weddings more than 20 years ago, so that has been a constant in my life no matter what else I have been doing. I have performed marriages on beaches in Puerto Rico, Santa Cruz and Monterrey. I have married couples in huge auditoriums filled with guests and in the privacy of their living rooms in the presence of a few witnesses. Being a part of the joining of two lives is one of the great privileges in my life.
The most important thing to me is that every couple at whose wedding I officiate has the wedding that they want. I want their wedding day to be as perfect as possible. That is why I meet with the bride and groom at my house, sit down with them and learn their story. In this way I can compose a ceremony that is perfect for them. Once the ceremony is written I will send a copy via e-mail it to the couple and they can make any changes they want. I am always happy to incorporate anything people want in their ceremony. In recent weddings I have had candle ceremonies, handkerchief ceremonies, and sand ceremonies. I have had grooms make vows not only to their bride, but to the bride's children, pledging fatherhood. Although my ceremony is non-religious, I have no objection to family members reading poems or prayers if that is what the bride and groom want. I never want the couple to worry about me on their wedding day, since there is always last minute things that they have to deal with, therefore I am always early and ready when I am needed.